Emotional balance

As the wife, I tried to keep my worst disposition to myself to avoid upsetting my husband. My husband, on the other hand, feels a bad mood isn't for keeping in but for sharing with everyone and blaming everyone. He is snarling this morning and when I ask why, get a litany on how the cat wants fed. Which happens every darn day. Upsetting me doesn't enter into it, while I am constantly concerned about how my mood effects him. I wonder if younger, modern couples have overcome making the wife responsible for all emotions.